Monday, 28 July 2014

Leh - Ladakh Trip (June 11- 18, 2014)


Julley (Hi),

Every year I do 2-3 trips depending on the budget of the trip viz. one religious trip, one trek and one leisure trip. I did my religious trip in March. Wanted to do either a trek or a leisure trip. May is the best time to do a trek. However, could not manage a trek this year, hence opted for a leisure trek. Was wanting to go to Ladakh for a long time. Mr. Vivek Awasthi (office friend) visited Ladakh last year thru Cox & Kings. His experience was good and urged me to visit Ladakh. Without thinking much or exploring other destinations or organizers, I booked for Ladakh with Cox and Kings. Since Amit also wanted to visit Ladakh , he too joined me for the trip. 

Till the day we actually departed for the trip, we were not sure whether we would be going for this trip: courtesy Cox & kings!!!...We had to follow it up almost everyday for the payment & the Itinerary details. Finally a threatening call from Mr. Awasthi and a threatening mail from Amit forced them to expedite the matter. We received the payment details and the Itinerary just 15 minutes before the end of the day...At least our tour was confirmed J

I opted for Leh - Ladakh Super Saver Tour (Mumbai - Leh - Mumabai), while Amit opted for Delhi - Leh - Delhi. Cox and King had arranged an overnight stay at Hotel Lohomod, New Delhi.

Hotel stay was very comfortable. Rooms were very nice, food was good, hotel staff were very courteous. They managed to serve me breakfast at 4.45am!!! (Sandwiches, tea and cornflakes)

June 11, 2014. (New Delhi - Leh by flight)
We took a Flight from Delhi @ 6.45 am and reached Leh at 8.30am. Delhi to Leh journey is mind blowing.The view from the plane was breath taking..Actually felt like I was taking a tour through heaven...It was a picturesque sight...our plane was flying between the clouds and the snow clad mountains...Given a choice, I would have booked a mountain for myself!!.We never realised when the plane touched Leh airport.

At the airport, we met the entire group who had done the booking for Super Saver Leh - Ladakh tour thru Cox & Kings. We were thirteen of us (11 pax from one family plus Amit and Myself)...Transportation was arranged from Airport to the Hotel Lumbini. It was approx. 3kms from the airport.

We introduced ourselves. Jain family were from Jaipur.Myself from Mumbai, Amit from Navi Mumbai.

Ladakh means "land of high passes", It is a region in the state of Jammu and Kashmir of Northern India sandwiched between the Karakoram mountain range to the north and the Himalayas to the South, The Indian portion of Ladakh is composed of the Leh and Kargil districts. Leh district is the largest district of India, covering more than half the area of Jammu & Kashmir.

Since Leh is at high altitude, oxygen level is less, one gets breathless, dizziness...Organizers recommended us Diamox tablets.

After reaching the hotel, we were advised to take rest. We were told not to take bath and eat less. REST is mandatory to get acclimatized.

Many of them advised me not to carry warm clothes since June and July are kind of a summer in Leh. I very religiously followed their advise and carried only ONE SWEATSHIRT!!!...When I reached Leh, got a shock of my life, it was terribly cold... All the locals were wearing a windcheater during the day!!!...It seems that this time the winter had overly stayed..It had just snowed in some parts of the Leh. Next day, I bought a sweater, gloves and monkey cap!..Amit's brother was smarter. He gave Amit a bag full of WARM CLOTHES!!..he was saved...

Day 1 (Visit to Shanti Stupa, Sankar Gompa and Leh Palace)
Our tour started @ 8.30am. Two Innova were at our disposal, We were accompanied by Senior Jain and his wife, her sister and husband. Both the couples easily mingled with us. They enlightened us with their travel experiences. They were also fond of Music and last  but the not the least "Eating"!!!..You name the food item and you will find it in their bag!!!!!Amit in fact commented Thank God Vandana, you had bought something to eat, else we would have cut a sorry figure!!!....

Shanti Stupa
Built by Japanese monks to promote world peace, This large hill top stupa has brightly coloured reliefs on its mid-levels and is topped by a spired white hemisphere. 
Shanti Stupa

Shanti Stupa



































Sankara Gompa Monastery
Almost all the Monasteries in Leh were similar. It has a huge golden plated Buddha statue with money scattered all over it. We were lucky to visit this monastery on that particular day. Once in a year, puja is performed in this monastery and it happened to be that day.14 monks were sitting and chanting the mantras. Pooja starts at 8 am and ends at 6 pm.  In every temple, u will find diyas , prasad and flowers offered to the deity. The worshipers offer either flowers, fruits or money. In Buddhism, they offer water in seven bowls and each bowl signifies specific meaning, viz. first bowl of water for drinking water, second bathing water, third flowers, fourth incense, fifth  light, sixth perfume and seventh food. Worshipers can offer anything they wish to. We saw Real juice, chocolates, bracelets, bangles, etc. being offered to the GOD.!!!I have never seen these kind of offerings anywhere...J
Sankara Gompa Monastery





Leh Palace
When you hear the word "palace" one imagines a very grande residence surrounded by beautiful greenery. The word palace in Leh is very underestimated, Simple residences are better!!!!!....Most of the palaces including the Leh palace was in a very dilapidated condition. Since the Governor was visiting the palace to inaugurate a picture gallery, they were renovating only that part of the palace where Governor would be visiting. Rest of the palace was in a very pathetic state!!!!Not recommended to be included in sight seeing.




Day 2 (Nubra Valley)
Popularly known as Dorma or 'the valley of flowers'. Route is via Khardungla Pass - the world's one of the highest motorable road (5602 mts). It is almost 4 - 4 1/2 hrs journey. Part of the road is very rough. However, en route to Nubra valley is stupendous...Either side of the road is snow and the place is surrounded by mountains, plain, snow clad mountains river, greenery....Amit said he will get Rooafza next time to eat 'gola'!!!Snow was so white in colour that a bleached cloth wouldn't be able to boast about its white colour...



We took a halt at Khardungla pass. This is one of the highest peak in the world. Oxygen level is very less. recommended only to stay not more than 20 minutes. There is only one restaurant at the Pass which offers black tea and Maggi. In the entire Leh, Maggi is very famous. May be, because it is hot, filling and takes less time to cook without any add ons...


On the way, there are many military camps, they too offer black tea (free) and medical aid.

Maggi story at Khardungla Pass


Amit at Khardungla Pass

On most of the monasteries and mountains, you will see the fliers tied on a string with mantras written on it. People tie these fliers to have safe journey and longer life.


En route, we came across Marmots, from the squirrel family. Cutest animal to cuddle in the cold!!!!It stays 6 months in the burrow during the cold and 6 months outside. Eats only grass and mud. 



Marmot busy finding food..Alas if only he had looked at us, we would have guided him to Mr. Jain's eatery bag(s)!!!
We also experienced a slight snowfall during the journey. 90 kms away was the Siachen Brigade Pakistan border..We reached Nubra valley around 4pm and were welcomed by 'Abel'.

Abel
Sand Dunes @ Nubra Valley:

This is the only and one of the best place to visit in Nubra Valley. You will find snow clad mountains, plain mountains, green trees, and sand dunes at one place. Also, you get to see and ride two hump camels nowhere are found in India. 


Sand dunes
Camel ride at the sand dunes
After the camel ride
Effect of after the ride!!!
  
Diskit Monastery
Diskit is situated at an altitude of 10,310 ft above sea level, at the edge of desert on Shyok valley. Among the larger villages, Diskit is the administrative centre of Nubra valley. The valley was an important stopover on the caravan route between Tibet and China. Diskit monastery was given to Rimpoche of Thiksey monastery during 18th century. It is still under the management of Thiksey monastery and hence, considered a sub-gompa of Thiksey. The monastery constructed in Tibetan style and boasts of murals and frescos. The monastery houses about 100 monks. The prayer hall of the monastery has a statue of Maitreya Buddha and several images of fierce guardian deities. Diskit monastery, it is believed, still guards the wrinkled head and hand of a Mongol demon inside a temple in the monastery. According to legend, the Mongol demon once lived on the land where the monastery stands and wrecked havoc on the people. Even after being slain, the demon kept resurrecting which has been stopped only by the monastery’s deities.

35 metre statue of Maitreya Buddha (tallest  Buddha statue in the Ladakh) facing down the Shyok River towards Pakistan.


Day  6
Visit to Hall of Fame Museum / Adventure Park, Magnetic Hill , Zanskar River, Alichi Monastery, Gurudwara Pathar Sahib


You can see the biographies of eminent defense personalities, images and weapons used during Kargil war, Siachen and its heroes and their daily instruments and lifestyle of Ladakhi people. 30 minutes of video is shown on Kargil war. While watching the video realised that, hearing, watching and actually going through the situations is an entirely different experience. I was literally in tears when I saw the video, the letters of the jawans, the small fully equipped tent in which they live!!!And here we fight for petty things…..


Inside the tent of a Jawan
Amit in a Adventure Park



Self in a Adventure Park
Magnetic Hill


Magnetic hill is located near Leh. The hill is alleged to have magnetic properties strong enough to pull cars uphill and force passing aircraft to increase their altitude in order to escape magnetic interference. We tried with our vehicles..The magnetic stretch is hardly 20mtrs. Still the experience was amazing!!! 


Gurudwara Pathar Sahib
Beautiful Gurudwara constructed in the memory of Guru Nanak, about 25 miles away from Leh. When we entered the hall, prayers were going on. I and Amit sat for few minutes, took the darshan and then proceeded for the prasad. At the Gurudwaras, you will usually find langar (lunch), tea/coffee and snacks. We opted to have lunch followed by hot tea. The Jain family didn't had lunch for two reasons, first they wanted Jain food and secondly they thought while returning from Alchi they will lunch. However, for me and Amit none of these reasons existed!!!.I have no idea why this happens, but this is the second time when I visited Gurduwara (first being at the Hemkund Sahib gurudwara, Uttarakhand) I had tears in my eyes....no reason whatsoever!!.We were about to leave when Amit remembered he had not donated any money...Told him it's ok, however he said he doesn't prefer to have free lunches at the temples and so very graciously donated few notes....


Alchi Monastery (comprises of five temples)


From Gurudwara, we started to Alchi Monastery. It was almost 2hrs drive. Drive is so enjoyable that you forget the distance traveled. Entire Leh is surrounded by huge mountains, greenery and lakes. At times, we found the the road to the destination was magnificent than the actual destination!!!!


Alchi is a village and monastery in the Leh district of Ladakh region situated on the bank of Indus River, 70 km downstream from the capital in Leh. Unlike the other gompas in Ladakh, Alchi is situated on lowland, not on a hilltop. The village is famous for the existence of one of the oldest monasteries in Ladakh (a national heritage) Alchi Monastery, mainly known for its magnificent, and well-preserved 11th- or 12th-century wall paintings, all in an Indo-Himalayan style.



When we reached the monastery, it was closed for lunch time. One of the monk was preaching and there were almost 80-90 people assembled to listen to the monk. Some were sitting outside the temple. We waited till the temple opened. As usual, this monastery too had a huge statue of Buddha and few other deities. This visit can easily be missed...


Cute little Girls at the Alchi Monastery
Zanskar River (confluence of two rivers, Indus and Zanskar)
Zanskar is the river formed from the junction of two streams, Lungnak means 'dark gorge' and Stod, which carries the melt water of the great Drang-drung glacier. River is uinque for its two distinct colours, the muddy Zanzkar river and the blue Indus river.

Zanskar river


Amit, ready to take a reverse dive at the Zanskar River
River Rafting can be done at this river. The Jain's decided not to go for it since it was toooo costly. We too decided to skip it...


Day 7:  On to Pangong Lake










































After breakfast we started our trip to Pangong lake. Yes, it is the same lake where the climax scene of the film 3 Idiots was  shot. We had only heard about this lake..We were completely unaware of what laid ahead of us...
Since it was 6th day of the trip, we gelled well with the Jain family. We also enjoyed the company of Jain family. They have traveled to many places, international as well as in India. They shared their experiences of travel. Just as we started the tour from hotel, Mr. Jain (Sr) suggested that each one of us would sing devotional song. Each one of us sang 2 devotional songs..Amit instantly composed a poem on the nature..of course he didn't sing it, he read it...Later (I don't remember exactly) the conversation started towards "Crux of happiness". That's it..I knew I can now peacefully go to sleep. Simple, this was the forte of THE AMIT...This is his one of the favorite topic of discussion!!! Other two being, "Feel" & " Connect". He can go on for days discussing WHAT EXACTLY IS HAPPINESS, HOW DOES ONE FEEL IT!!!I really should appreciate and thank Mr. Jain for keeping Amit engaged in the conversation. Finally after 45 minutes of discussion, Mr Jain to some extent, was able to convince him but of course not fully...At least He tried!!!

We were busy enjoying the road side view of the mountains, snow.... There were very few stalls on the way. These stalls have only 2 things to offer: Maggi and Tea!!!



Finally we got a glimpse of the lake..I was awestruck with the colours of the lake....various shades of blue, green, brown could be seen..This indeed is one of the wonders of the nature...There were many opinion on the colours of the lake..some one said it is the shadow of the clouds, some said shadow of the mountains, some even added that it is the reflection of the coloured stones!!!!!!!!

Pangong lake in the Himalayas is situated at a height of about 4,350 m (14,270 ft). ). It is 134 km (83 mi) long and extends from India to Tibet. Approximately 60% of the length of the lake lies in Tibet. The lake is 5 km (3.1 mi) wide at its broadest point. All together it covers 604 km. During winter the lake freezes completely, despite being saline water.

It is about five hours drive from Leh most of it on a rough and dramatic mountain road. The route passes through beautiful Ladakh countryside, crosses the villages of Shey and Gya and traverses the Changla pass, (the third highest motorable mountain pass in the world) where army sentries and a small teahouse greet visitors.

This lake is famous for film shoots. 3 Idiots shooting was done at this lake. Almost all the restaurants are named either by the name of the film or by the actors name in the film…

Words fail to describe the lake. One simply has to see it…and of course FEEL IT… Usually when you see water you feel like putting your feet in the water. When I went near the lake my toe touched the water and I was shocked…water was tooooooooooooooooooooo damn cold. No one dared to put their feet in the water. However, Amit had decided that he would take a bath in the lake and he did so next morning!!

When you see the lake, you feel there is nothing else on the earth which is worth looking at!!!

I, usually like to take a walk alone at the beach, river, lake, etc. What better place to reminiscence your life!!!....Things which you dont want in life just throw it in the lake!!! I had a lovely walk in the evening post sunset as well in the morning before the sunrise.


Pangong lake



Our tents were very close to the lake. Amenities at the tent were beyond our expectations. They were too good. Food was good. There was enough blankets to keep your warm. Evenings and Mornings are too cold at the lake. I was wearing 5 layers of clothing in the night and on the top of it there were 2 blankets!!!...It was a very funny situation inside the tent. You cannot come remove the blankets because of the cold and since the tent was fully closed we felt suffocation and had problems in breathing.  








Sunrise at Pangong Lake




Pangong Lake, Spot where 3 Idiot shooting was done
Pangong Lake, Leh


Pangong Lake

































Self, checking the  breadth of the lake!!!!

Amit capturing the beauty of Pangong Lake

Thiksey Monastery
While returning from Pangong lake, we visited Thiksey Monastery. Jain family were too tired to visit the Monastery. It is said that in Leh, one must see the Diskit and Thiksey Monastery. Looking at the state of the Monasteries, I too was hesitant to go, but then decided since it was in the package, I thought of visiting the Monastery. I & Amit went to see the Monastery.  The structure of this monastery was good. It took 3 years to built this monastery and was inaugurated by Dalai Lama. (People of Leh worshiped only 2 people, viz. Buddha and Dalai Lama. 

The Tibetan Buddhist monastery of Gelugpa sect of Tibetan Buddhism is located at the top of hill. The monastery is famous for its architecture and its location.  The 12 storey monastery has 10 temples, assembly hall, and residence for 120 monks and nunnery. The monastery buildings are structured in hierarchical order. There is one big statue of Maitreya (future Buddha) which covers almost two floor of the monastery that is 40 feet in height. Tara temple of Goddess Tara is another major attraction for the visitors. Apart from visiting monastery one can also find some rare and precious stupas, statues, thangkas, wall paintings and swords in the monastery.


Thiksey Monastery


Thiksey Monastery


This is the monastery where for the first time the monk took some interest in telling us the importance of the monastery and the offering of seven bowls of water. It was worth the visit.

Shey Palace
The Shey Monastery was built in 1655 on the instructions of Deldon Namgyal, in the memory of his late father, Singay Namgyal, within the palace complex. The monastery is noted for its giant copper with gilded gold statue of a seated Shakyamuni Buddha. The palace is almost in ruins. Almost all of the palaces in Leh are in shambles. These palace can safely be skipped from the sight seeing.




Visiting Ladakh was a very beautiful experience.!!!Enjoyed every moment of the tour...............

Overall arrangement of the tour was very nice. Stay was comfortable, Food was eatable, Journey was enjoyable.....and Moments are memorable...J










Wednesday, 4 June 2014

Get-to-gether at my place...

Finally when all my excuses exhausted, I invited my book club members for lunch. Frankly it was under sheer pressure from Amit that I decided to invite book club members for lunch. When Reliance declared Saturday as a holiday, Amit invited me for lunch. I declined the invitation for 2 reasons: first since this was a historic decision in the life of reliance, I wanted to celebrate / enjoy by sitting at home; secondly since we travel daily from Borivali to Ghansoli I avoid travelling this side of the place. However, I never thought I would be caught in a Catch 22 situation!!!. For the simple reason that then Amit said if you can’t come then I will come!!!...I had to stock few excuses for the subsequent Saturdays and Sundays so as to postpone him coming to my place or me visiting his place…

Finally, when none of the excuses were left, decided to invite all of them for lunch. Date was 31st May 2014 (Saturday) at 12.30pm. Vignesh dropped out citing some personal work. Pratibha was unable to come since her father was unwell. She visits his place on weekends. Sumit couldn’t join for lunch as he had already planned to go to Pune with his friends.

Amit, Karthik and Deepali managed to come for lunch. Since Ketan (my younger brother) was alone at home, requested him to join for lunch. Niyati (college friend) likes meeting new people. Invited her also for lunch.

I knew Karthik and Amit would land at my place before time. Hence very strategically gave them only partial instructions of reaching my place. I underestimated their intelligence….They managed to reach my place at 11.30am!!!!! I prefer finishing all the work before the guests arrive. Usually, the host is in the kitchen preparing dishes and the guests are left with either watching TV or reading newspaper / magazines or worst playing the host’s kids or still worst responding to the tons of Qs asked by the host’s family members J
Luckily I had envisaged this and was prepared by then. Part of the menu was ordered from outside. Since Karthik and Niyati were veg, few of the dishes were veg. In addition to that, Karthik prefers starters to a five course meal. Keeping in mind Karthik’s preferences and Amit and Deepali being hard-core Non vegetarian had to balance the meal. On the top of that, I wanted to show some of my cooking skills as well sans spoiling their appetite!!!.

After giving much thought to the menu, decided to do the following: Chana Chaat, Aam rus, Potato wada, smoked chicken was self- made and the starters (Veg Spring Roll, Paneer Hungama & Chilli Garlic Potato), Veg Biryani and Chicken Biryani ordered from Hangout. Deepali came with a Cake (Hangout) and Mango Ice cream (Naturals). Amit managed to get Vanila ice cream (Amul). Niyati got Punjab Sind’s Lassi and Chhaas.

Over the lunch, we talked (cursed??) about our office experiences. It started with lunch and ended with 3 servings of Tea!!! Have realised, when we discuss office experiences it is usually the worst experiences we discuss and never the good ones!!!! We had decided that we will not be discussing books but later on the conversation drifted to what we were reading….Ketan left post lunch citing some excuse. Deepali left since her husband was travelling the same night. We decided to go for a movie. But Amit said he was more comfortable lying down on the floor than sitting in the chair and watching a movie…

So we decided to sit and chat at home. Niyati likes to read, but lately she couldn’t get hold of a good book. She wanted to know a good read. This becomes very subjective. I don’t think there is such a thing called a “good read”. It depends on your likes / tastes to read. Depends on your state of mind at the time of reading. If you are occupied with tons of disturbing thoughts, any reading will not be a good read!!And if you like reading, then it doesn't matter whether it is a fiction / non-fiction / comic/ spiritual / philosophical...

I think we enjoy reading only when we want to read. As usual Amit and karthik ended up giving 'gyan' to Niyati on reading. Since Karthik lately has been active on writing blogs (his name was included in the one of the top five bloggers in Chennai ) he suggested her to write. 

Guys, please give a serious thought to this..I and Karthik have been urging you for long to start writing your thoughts. Atleast start writing by reviewing the book you read. Just pen down your thoughts on the book you read...If reading is your hobby, add value to it. Not just by reading but writing a review of  the book.  

At 6.30 pm,  it was time for saying good byes!!!     




Tuesday, 3 June 2014

Minutes of the Book Club Meet held on April 29, 2014

Amit: Black Friday / S. Hussain Zaidi
This book is about bomb blast which happened in across Mumbai in March 1993. Book covers comprehensive coverage of the blast. Movie on the book was also made. However, movie doesn’t cover all the details which the book has covered.  I still remember the sound of the explosion it made. We were staying at Railway officers flats (courtesy father), Churchgate.  One of the bomb blasts was at the stock exchange building. Following the blast, curfew was immediately declared. I had heard various adventurous experiences of my mother. Got to know actual one such experience when my mother decided to venture out during the curfew just to find out what was happening on the streets!!!!  


Deepali: From Dongri to Dubai / S. Hussain Zaidi
This is the first book that presents the history of the Mumbai mafia, and details the lives of Karim Lala, Chhota Rajan, Haji Mastan, Abu Salem, and Varadarajan Mudaliar. The main part of the book revolves around Dawood Ibrahim and describes his story starting from a young age as a boy in Mumbai to the international terrorist he has become today.

To read and to actually get a first-hand experience are entirely two different things. Deepali narrated her real life experience when she was staying at Dadar. She had witnessed many such fights of the mob, killing people, burning the house.....

I went to visit the Oberoi and Taj post bomb attacks on 26 Nov 2008...Looking at the fire and the broken glass was itself a nerve wrecking experience...Couldn't imagine the real situation when the attack must have happened and the panic stricken people who were stuck inside the hotel... 


Karthik: Hidden India and My India
These books were in Tamil. Title Hidden India meant that there are so many things which are of Indian origin or which were first thought of / originated in India.However, outsiders have claimed these things to be be their own origin!!!For eg. Patent for turmeric (Indian origin, US wanted to patent it), Hanuman; superman in US!!!!...Kohinoor now in UK...

The Saraswati image is believed to have been at a temple at Bhojsala is now at the British Museum in London.

The Birmingham Buddha, the largest surviving Buddha image of ancient India, was discovered in 1861 from the site of a monastery at Sultanganj in Bihar during a railway construction. It is now at the City Museum and Art Gallery in Birmingham.

In the late 19th century most of the main Amravti sculptures were taken away from the site and sent to museums. Many are in the British Museum.

List is endless!!!!


Pratibha: Bird in a banyan tree: my story  / Bina Ramani 
Gives the readers an insight to her life, inclusive of all the ups and down she went through. From her personal to professional life, everything has been penned down in detail. Adding to this, Ramani has mentioned and talked about the Jessica Lal murder case in which she was one of the main witnesses.


Sumit: Bhagvad Geeta as viewed by Swami Vivekanand
Bhagvad Geeta can be interpreted in many ways. If you need to learn management learns best books are the epic books!!!...Applicable in today's life also....According to Sumit, BG doesn't preach or make you think that one need to behave in a sober manner or one has to imbibe only the niceties of life....In short, ye mat karo, woh mat karo...aapko hamesha achcha he behave karna hai.....jo sahi hai voh karo...only catch is "SAHI KYA HAI"?!!!

I think, person who knows he / she  is right(to have a knowledge of knowing that he/she is right is itself a big achievement!!) has a different kind of aura / confidence....

Vandana Karande: The top 5 regrets of the dying / Bronnie Ware

1. I wish I'd the courage to live a life
2. I wish I hadn't worked so hard
3. I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings
4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends
5. I wish I had let myself be happier

This is so true.  We all undergo all these regrets at one point of time...We have so many dreams in our life..But some of them remains unfulfilled simply because we have ump teems of reason for them. Believe me, when we have reasons, they will remain unfulfilled. Friends, at least, dreams which are small don't keep them hanging. It is just our laziness that comes into the way. When the time goes by, we realise there were so many things which we could have done / fulfilled. Have heard, people who failed many a times, but still got up is the real winner. The ability to get up after failure is a sign of success!!! Don't repent over failure, get up and start again....Sheer hardworking will get you what you wish for..LUCK alone doesn't play a role in life....

Secondly, People work work and work...they forget to enjoy life. We think of doing things post retirement. For that, we strive to work and accumulate wealth. What happens post retirement: either we are too old to travel, there are too restrictions at that age, your better half may have left (either divorced or in heaven)!!!!!....You are left alone with your wealth...

Thirdly, We take granted that other's know what we feel about them...even our parents think that it is but natural that they love their kids...and this the kids should know...Most of the time misunderstandings happen just because of this!!!We don't tell people what we feel about them..we assume that they know what we feel about them....It is very important that we express our feelings...it helps in any kind of relationship. It will help them in knowing where they stand in your life...People are happier when they know what you think about them...Be honest with your feelings...

 Fourthly, Don't forget your friends in your busy life. Friends are important part of your life...Imagine your school days, college days, office days, etc..would you have survived without friends??...The are one of the pillars in your life!!!!They have contributed to your life> They were there in your Ups and downs in your life...however over a period of time, when you are working or married, other priorities precede than spending time with your friends..When you become old, you have only memories and NO FRIENDS....It is not necessary that you spend entire day with them, only a short message or a tinkle that they are thought of will keep the bonds of friendship strong....Any kind of relationship needs constant efforts...In trying to make new friends, don't forget your existing friends...As Amit said...just as water your plants everyday in order to grow them, you need constant efforts to have healthier relationships....

Last but not the least: Be happier in life...To be contented in life is an achievement itself in life....It is very essential you realise this in life...Live for now..enjoy the happiness of NOW!!!If you are happy life will be beautiful..If You create an healthier environment around you, indirectly you are helping others also to be positive. Life is full of challenges...what can be a better victory than overcoming those challenges and still ready to face further challenges...There are problems in everyone's life...Person who overcomes those problems is real winner.. At times, you will not be able to find solutions, dicuss with your friends, families, colleagues, you have a larger view of the problem..someone may gone through a similar problem, they can help you with their approach..Dont despair...There is always a way to face the problem...I remember my ex boss saying once, if there are no problems in your life, then there is some problem with your life!!This doesn't mean that you dig some problem when there are none!!!!!Bottom line: try to be happier in what you have,  don't delve on what you don't have!!Live for the MOMENT....I remember when I went for treks, We were told the distance we need to walk..We were so busy in covering that distance, that when we reached that point we forgot to enjoy the moment we were busy in thinking the next point!!!!!!!!!